Relationships   -   Unknown

 

Don't think in terms of forever.
Think of now, and forever will take care of itself.
Grow up together, constantly.
Expect to invest a great deal of time and energy into your relationships.
Lasting relationships don't just happen, they are created.
Take your time.
Remove price tags from people. Everyone has their worth;
the excitement lies in the discovery of their value.
Don't be afraid of giving.
You can never give too much, if you're giving willingly.
Never force anyone to do anything for you "in the name of love"
Love is not to be bargained for.
Realize that you always have choices. Its up to you.
Remember that a relationship is a pooling of resources.
That means that with each relationship, you are not only giving, you are becoming.
Don't allow experience to harden your heart;
rather use it to become more aware and sensitive.
Don't hold on to anger, hurt and pain.
They steal your energy and keep you from love.
Value yourself.
The only people who appreciate doormats are people with dirty shoes.
Learn to listen. You don't learn anything from hearing yourself talk.


When I ask you to listen to me and you start to give me advice, you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me an you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me -- strange as that may seem.
Listen ... all I ask was that you listen, not talk or do, just hear me.
Advice is cheap. A quarter will get you both Dear Abby and Hints from Heloise in the same newspaper
And I can do for myself. I am not helpless, maybe discouraged and faultering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness
But, when you accept for a simple fact that I do feel what I feel -- no matter how irrational, then I can stop trying to convince you and get about the business of what's behind this irrational feeling, and when that's clear, the answers are clear and I don't need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them.
Perhaps that's why prayer works ... sometimes for some people because God is
mute and he doesn't give advice or try to fix things. He just listens and
lets you work it out for yourself.
So, please, listen and just hear me, and if you want to talk ....
wait a minute for your turn and I will listen to you.